June 26, 2022


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Keep Your Donations A Secret: Giving Time And Money Is Personal

Practicing Stealth Wealth is the act of keeping your overall wealth a secret. It helps with keeping haters at bay and your family safe. For your well-being, it’s much better to blend in with the majority than stick out when it comes to your finances.

When it comes to money, people have all sorts of ideas. Think about this situation. The security detail for Elon Musk’s seven children must be extraordinary.

Given Elon has a ~$300 billion net worth, his family may be constantly at risk. Luckily, Elon could easily pay a ransom in the tens or hundreds of millions of dollars, which ironically makes his family even more of a target.

Not sticking too far out of the crowd is wise. However, is it equally wise to be stealthy with your donations? To appease his haters, he could announce a $10 billion donation to helping eliminate poverty where he lives. If so, how can you still hate someone after giving that much?

Even so, let’s discuss why we should still probably keep our donations a secret.

The Pros Of Keeping Your Donations A Secret

By keeping your donations private, you stay consistent with the Stealth Wealth mantra. For many, donating is a luxury. If you suddenly announce you’ve donated $20,000 to optogenetics research, you instantly become a target.

People will start pontificating, if you have that much money to donate to optogenetics research, then surely you must have a massive net worth since there are so many other important causes. Why not donate $20,000 to your local church that feeds hundreds of homeless?

But what percentage of your income or net worth you donate to charity is really anybody’s guess. You may have a legally blind son whose main hope for improved vision is through optogenetics. Therefore, you might be inclined to donate a large percentage to vision-related organizations.

By keeping your donations a secret, you also won’t get judged by people who think you’re wasting your money on a cause they deem less important. Emotionally unintelligent people have a difficult time viewing things from another person’s point of view. Instead, they think their way is the only reality.

We can’t help but judge how other people spend THEIR money.

A classic example is a billionaire donating $100 million to a prestigious university when the university already has a massive endowment, e.g. Yale University has a ~$42 billion endowment. When I hear about these donations I usually think, Well that’s a big waste of money! Why the hell would you donate millions to already rich institutions?

Then I stop judging and think rationally. The billionaire has strategically paved the way for his multiple generations to gain admittance to said prestigious university, regardless of their descendant’s aptitude. Then, by graduating from the prestigious university, it increases their descendant’s chances of getting ahead without directly receiving money. Smart!

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Another benefit of keeping your donations a secret is that people won’t come out of the woodwork to ask you for money. I once had a friend who played in the NFL tell me he had an entire entourage to support back home. As soon as his career was over, his entourage started going away.

Everybody has a finite amount of capital to give. If people start hitting you up for money, it may alter the way you want to give. It may also start to feel very annoying.

The Cons Of Keeping Your Donations A Secret

Donating your money and time is a private matter. People should feel free to do what they want with their money without judgement. But the funny thing is, people who hardly donate any money or time are often the ones who judge the most!

I get judged all the time about how I spend my money, which is why I’ll never reveal my overall budget. See the comments in Living A Middle-Class Lifestyle On $300,000 A Year With A Family. When it comes to sharing any personal money details, it may be better to come across as struggling.

Further, if you start telling the world how much money you donate, I feel like it diminishes why you’re giving in the first place. Are you really donating because you believe in the cause? Or are you donating for attention?

It’s likely a combination of both. Hopefully you’re donating more because you believe in the cause.

It just feels a little icky if you’re announcing how much you’ve donated publicly. Even if your intention is to encourage others to donate with you, it still doesn’t feel 100% right. Sometimes, telling others how much you donate makes them feel bad as well. As a result, these people might start resenting you.

But regardless of your donation reasons, donating something is better than donating nothing.

The Main Negative For Keeping Your Donations A Secret

Being viewed as a selfish, greedy bastard is the main reason why you may want to publicize your donations on occasion. This may especially be true if you are not successful in practicing Stealth Wealth.

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Some people, no matter how stealthy they are, can’t escape the limelight due to the work they do. These types of people include entertainers, professional athletes, politicians, and CEOs.

When Jeff Bezos’ wealth was constantly topping the charts, he was viewed as a greedy man for hardly giving any of his wealth away. People were saying he could single-handedly eradicate poverty in Seattle if he wanted to. Nobody needs $1 billion, let alone $100+ billion.

Meanwhile, after his divorce, his ex-wife began publicly giving away billions of dollars. Mackenzie Bezos was the hero, Jeff Bezos was the goat. Or perhaps Mackenzie was the hare and Jeff was the tortoise in terms of donating.

Either way, accumulating so much wealth when there is concurrently so much poverty is disturbing to many. It doesn’t matter how many people you employ or how much better you’ve made the world with your product or service, you will always get hate.

My Selfish, Greedy Bastard Example

A reader once accused me of profiting from my friend’s death because I have ads on Financial Samurai. I have had contextual ads on Financial Samurai since 2009 when the site first started.

But what the reader didn’t know when he sent me his prickly pear e-mail was that I had already sponsored two charity events for my friend’s family for over $1,600.

First, our Softball Meetup group raised money for my friend Wynn’s family by increasing the regular participation fee from $7 to $24. Wynn’s jersey number was 24, so the organizations thought it was a good gesture to honor our friend. Instead of the two organizers keeping the fees as they normally do, they donated the $528 to Wynn’s memorial fund.

The second way we raised money for Wynn’s family was by me sponsoring a game with incentives. Here were the incentives I suggested for the first Saturday morning meetup game.

Game Day Incentives

$50: Homerun

$30: Triple

$20: Double

$10: Single

$10: Stolen Base

$10: Throwing out a base stealer

$20: Double play

$30: Triple play

$20: Diving catch in the outfield

I thought the incentives would be a positive way to motivate everyone to do their very best because that is how Wynn played the game each week. It was a difficult and emotionally charged day, especially since his wife and baby came out in the third inning to watch.

In the end, we raised $750 in performance incentives that Saturday game, which I thought was a good outcome. So I decided to sponsor a second game two days later on Monday, September 6. The second game raised $886 for a total of $1,636.

At Wynn’s funeral, our Softball Meetup leader gave Wynn’s wife a wonderful picture book from all of us with words we each said about our relationship and thoughts about Wynn. Included in the picture book was a check for $3,000 from the group and my $1,636 check from the two sponsored games.

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First game raised $750
Should We Keep Our Donations A Secret? - Wynn Padula Memorial Day Game 2021 fundraiser
Second game raised $850

Just Want To Act Well For My Kids

I don’t mind being viewed as frugal, stupid, or irrelevant. It’s fine if someone doesn’t appreciate what I write. Everything is free and you can always click away. But I don’t want to be viewed as a greedy and selfish person, which is the only reason why I shared my latest donation with you.

Before I had children, I may have ignored this judgmental person criticizing how I live my life and spend my money. But with young kids who might eventually read what I write, I want to set a good example. It would pain me if my children thought I didn’t want to help others.

We plan to host the Wynn Padula Memorial Day tournament every year for as long as possible. After all, raising a baby until adulthood costs a lot of money. Further, we all want to be there for Wynn’s daughter when she grows up.

One day, Diana might want to hear more stories about her father. Maybe she will play softball in high school too. If so, many of us will come out to cheer her on!

Therefore, I’m pleased to say I will be sponsoring next year’s tournament and donating at least $1,000 to his family. As a reader, feel good knowing you are participating in making this happen. Any revenue generated from this post and others will go to Wynn’s family.

Oh, if you are in the SF Bay Area and want to participate or contribute to Wynn’s softball tournament, let me know.

If you still want to tell people about your donations, then consider only mentioning your volunteer work. When it comes to donating time, people are more appreciative.

Follow Up Questions About Donating And More

Here is the funniest video I’ve ever watched about donating money anonymously or publicly. The solution is to donate as Anonymous, then tell people you are Anonymous! Check it out and let me know if you agree.

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Do you think we should keep our donations a secret? In what circumstances do you think it’s worthwhile to tell the world you’ve donated? Why do people judge others for how they spend and donate? For more nuanced personal finance content, sign up for my free weekly newsletter here.